Romantic Attachment Style Test | Which Attachment Style Are You in Love?

1. What Is Attachment Theory?

Attachment Theory was first proposed by British psychologist John Bowlby to explain the emotional bond between infants and their primary caregivers. Later, psychologist Mary Ainsworth, through the 'strange situation' experiment, identified three main attachment styles: secure, anxious-ambivalent, and avoidant.

In the 1980s, social psychologists Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver introduced attachment theory into the study of adult intimate relationships, finding that adults' behavior patterns in love are highly correlated with their attachment styles in infancy. Your attitude toward love, your way of handling conflict, and your desire for intimacy are all closely related to your attachment style.

2. The Three Core Types of Adult Attachment

According to attachment theory, adults usually show the following three typical patterns in intimate relationships:

• Secure Attachment: Feel comfortable with intimacy, able to enjoy closeness while maintaining appropriate independence. Trusts their partner, can communicate effectively, and tends toward constructive resolution when facing conflict.
• Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment: Craves extreme intimacy and fears abandonment, often falling into emotional swings due to over-sensitivity. Easily over-interprets the partner's behavior and needs a lot of reassurance (reassurance), sometimes showing 'clingy' or controlling tendencies.
• Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment: Suppresses the need for intimacy and emphasizes independence and self-sufficiency. Hard to trust others, avoids emotional expression and deep dependence, and chooses distancing or indifference when the relationship is tense.

In addition, there is alsoFearful-Avoidant(also called disorganized), characterized by both craving intimacy and fearing hurt, often caught in the contradictory 'approach-avoid' cycle.

3. The Basis for This Test's Design

This test is based onthe Adult Attachment Scale (ECR-R)and is an optimized adaptation of its core dimensions, designed around two core dimensions:

• Attachment Anxiety: The degree of fear of rejection/abandonment, and the tendency to seek excessive reassurance.
• Attachment Avoidance: The degree of discomfort with intimacy and dependence, and the tendency toward emotional suppression and distancing.

Through the combination of scores on these two dimensions, your attachment style can be precisely located. This test has 15 questions in total, approaching from daily interaction, conflict response, and emotional expression, helping you see more truthfully your 'subconscious script' in love.

4. Why Understand Your Attachment Style?

Understanding your attachment style is not about 'labeling' but about:

• Understanding your own emotional and behavioral response patterns in relationships;
• Identifying the deep roots of conflict with your partner (rather than surface issues);
• Breaking the 'repetitive relationship trap' (such as always encountering the same kind of problem);
• Finding a growth path that suits you and building healthier intimate relationships.

Especially suitable for: people who are in love, have experienced the pain of a breakup, feel they 'always get hurt in relationships', or want to improve the quality of their intimate relationships.

5. Scoring Method and Result Notes

Each question is scored from 1 to 5 (1 = not at all like me, 5 = exactly like me). Based on your scores on the two dimensions of 'attachment anxiety' and 'attachment avoidance', the system will place you into one of four types - secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful - and provide in-depth interpretation and personalized growth advice.