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Test Whether You Drive Away Your Own Romantic Luck

Test Whether You Drive Away Your Own Romantic Luck

Welcome to Test Whether You Drive Away Your Own Romantic Luck

Instructions:

  • There is no time limit for this test. Please answer at your own pace.
  • This test consists of 18 questions in total.
  • The next question will appear automatically after you select an answer.
  • You can return to modify your answer using the "Previous" button.
  • All test results on this site are for reference only and do not constitute professional advice.

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Test Whether You Drive Away Your Own Romantic Luck | Identifying Unconscious Blocks in Love

I. What Does 'Driving Away Your Own Romantic Luck' Mean?

Many people don't lack attractiveness; rather, at the start of an intimate relationship, unconscious defenses, misunderstandings, or behavior patterns make potential affection quietly slip away. In psychology, this phenomenon is called 'self-handicapping' and 'relationship initiation failure'.

Simply put: you have the 'ticket,' but you turn around and walk away at the door yourself.

II. The Theoretical Basis of This Test

This test mainly draws on the following two classic psychological concepts:

  • Self-handicapping Theory: To protect self-esteem, individuals create obstacles in advance (such as coldness, avoidance, or belittling the other person), so that when they fail they can attribute it to external factors rather than admit 'I am not worthy of being loved.'
  • The 'deactivating strategies' in attachment theory (Deactivating Strategies): Avoidantly attached people, through distancing, denying their needs, or excessive independence, actively weaken the formation of an intimate relationship to avoid the pain of rejection.

III. The Five Assessment Dimensions of This Test

The test has 18 questions and assesses, across five key behavior patterns, whether you are 'driving away romance':

  • Signal-reception sensitivity: Are you prone to ignoring or misreading others' signals of interest?
  • Defensive avoidance tendency: When someone gets close, do you habitually protect yourself with coldness, sarcasm, or withdrawal?
  • Self-worth assumption: Do you subconsciously believe 'I am not worthy of being sincerely liked'?
  • Relationship-initiation behavior: When an opportunity appears, do you advance, wait and see, or actively cut it off?
  • Fear of emotional exposure: Are you afraid that once you fall for someone you'll lose control or get hurt?

IV. Purpose and Target Audience

This test suits the following people:

  • People who often wonder 'why the people who like me never stay'
  • People who tend to suddenly turn cold and withdraw in the ambiguous phase
  • People who feel they are 'unlucky' while friends all say they are great
  • People who want to improve how they start intimate relationships

V. Scoring and Result Explanation

Each question is scored 1-5, from 'Not at all like me' to 'Very much like me.' The system will calculate your scores across the five dimensions and, based on them, determine your current 'romance-blocking pattern', and give targeted advice for improvement.