Test Whether Your Relationship Is in a Safe Period

1. What Is the 'Relationship Safety Period'?

The so-called 'relationship safety period' does not mean the relationship never has arguments, but that in a relationship, both parties are, in terms of emotions, trust, and future expectations, in a relatively stable, predictable state with buffer spacestate.

Psychologist John Gottman, in long-term research on marriage, found: What truly determines whether a relationship can last is not the amount of conflict, but whether both parties' 'repair attempts' when facing conflict can be seen and accepted. A relationship in the safety period often has three characteristics:

• Emotionally, you can hold each other, rather than draining each other
• Conflicts can be discussed, rather than suppressed or escalated
• Expectations for the future are shared, rather than each fighting alone

2. The Theoretical Basis of This Test

This test mainly draws on two classic psychological frameworks:

• Attachment Theory: Proposed by Bowlby, emphasizing how early attachment patterns affect the sense of security in adult intimate relationships. People with secure attachment more easily feel stable in a relationship.
• Gottman's 'Love Lab' Research: Through observing thousands of couples, key indicators of relationship stability were summarized, including: the ratio of positive to negative interactions, emotional regulation ability, and a 'we vs. the problem' mindset.

3. The Four Assessment Dimensions of This Test

We will comprehensively assess your current relationship state from the following four dimensions:

• Emotional Security: Can you truly express vulnerability in front of the other person? Are you afraid of being rejected or laughed at?
• Conflict Repair Ability: After an argument, can you return to the feeling of 'we're on the same side'? Or is there constant silent treatment and blame?
• Trust and Transparency: Do you believe the other person will stand by you at critical moments? Are you willing to share your true thoughts?
• Future Consistency: Do your imaginations of the future overlap? Have you made actual plans for a shared future?

4. Purpose and Target Audience

This test is suitable for the following people:

• People who are in a relationship and want to understand its health level
• Couples who have been arguing frequently recently and feel uneasy or distant
• Partners who want to improve relationship quality and enhance their sense of security
• Readers interested in the psychology of intimate relationships

5. Scoring and Results

This test has 18 questions, each scored 1-5, from 'strongly disagree' to 'strongly agree'. Based on the combination of scores on the four dimensions, the system will classify your relationship into different safety types, and provide targeted improvement advice.