Relationship Obsessiveness Test | Gain Insight into Your Cognitive Flexibility in Intimate Relationships

I. What Is 'Relationship Obsessiveness'?

Relationship obsessiveness does not refer to 'paranoia' as a mental illness, but to whether an individual, in an intimate relationship, has rigid cognition and black-and-white thinking patterns, and an excessive desire for control and a hard-to-release fixation toward the partner or relationship.

It usually shows up as: magnifying a partner's tiny mistake infinitely into 'proof of not loving anymore'; believing a relationship must be flawless, or else it is a complete failure; or falling into long-term resentment and rumination after a breakup, unable to move past the past.

II. Theoretical Basis: Cognitive Rigidity and Attachment Theory

This test mainly refers to two core theories in psychology:

• 'Cognitive distortions' in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT): commonly seen logical fallacies when people process information, such as 'all-or-nothing thinking' (black and white), 'overgeneralization,' and 'personalization.' In relationships, these distortions cause our judgments about the relationship to deviate severely from reality.
• Attachment Theory: especially anxious and avoidant attachment patterns. Insecure attachment often comes with a deep fear of being abandoned, and this fear turns into excessive monitoring, interpretation, and control of the partner's behavior, forming an emotional 'holding on tightly' or 'pushing away to test.'

III. The Four Assessment Dimensions of This Test

This test contains 18 scenario questions and assesses your relationship obsessiveness tendency across the following four dimensions:

• Intensity of black-and-white thinking: Do you tend to evaluate your partner and relationship as 'all good' or 'all bad'?
• Control and possessiveness: Do you need to control details to feel secure? Do you find it hard to tolerate your partner's independent space?
• Degree of emotional rumination: Are you prone to repeatedly chewing over past hurts, finding it hard to forgive, and even having revenge fantasies?
• Attribution bias: When conflict occurs, are you used to attributing all the causes to the other's malice rather than situational factors?

IV. Purpose of the Test and Who It Is For

This test aims to help you become aware of your potential blind spots in intimate relationships, and is suitable for:

• People who often feel pain, conflict, and anxiety about gains and losses because of relationship problems
• People who want to improve their relationship patterns and build healthier intimate relationships
• People who find they keep repeating similar romantic tragedies
• Explorers interested in Attachment Theory and cognitive psychology

V. Scoring Method

Each question is scored 1-5; the higher the score, the more obvious the obsessiveness tendency on that dimension. Based on your weighted total score across the four dimensions and combined with typical behavioral patterns, the system will match you with the most fitting 'relationship cognition type' and provide targeted psychological adjustment advice.